Think of your relationship/marriage like your car or your computer. Cars and computers require maintenance and care to work properly. Anybody who tells you their relationship has never needed any care or attention is lying. Couples need to talk. Successful couples invest in the relationship,...
We all have biologically based needs air, food, water, shelter and bonding. Bonding is the unique combination of emotional openness and physical closeness. It is the only biologically based need that we can’t meet by ourselves. We need another person so we look for him...
World renowned relationship experts and researchers John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman have spent the past four decades studying couples from their first dates through old age in an effort to learn about the meaning of love over time. Their research has shown that love...
You Can Be Right or You Can Be Married One of the most common contributing factors to marital discord is the need to be “right”. Couples argue over such mundane issues such as who said what to whom, to larger issues of politics, religion, and...
If your relationship feels like a roommate relationship, then the relationship probably has a low priority relative to other activities that demand your time and attention. One of the most frequent statements that marriage therapists hear is We are more like roommates than husband and...
The consistency of the efforts you put into an intimate relationship create the level of relationship “fitness”. If you wanted to be more physically fit, there might be several steps that you would take in order to achieve that goal. First, you would need to...